People took this seriously.

I’m fascinated by the idea that you read my post here and remembered or stalked my profile and saw that thread and then said to yourself “this guy walked away only concerned that people were mean to him personally”. Versus the extraordinarily obvious conclusion of “this guy was sickened/angered by seeing expression of hatred toward all Americans and joy at their suffering”. Impressive mental gymnastics there. I assume because you agree that anything bad that happens to any American is hilarious and deserved.

Yes, great point. The fediverse is toxic only in the ways I make it so

So did we all, buddy. So did we all.

That would make sense, yeah.

I don’t know about you but I’m not creating a 2 image with my turds.

It’s unfortunate, but friendships seem to be worn down by time. I’ve always been the person who will reach out if I feel like the other person also does but as soon as it feels one sided I lose motivation. When I was younger and lived closer to several people I considered friends, it felt nice. But as the years roll on, I find myself growing apart from friends in several ways. One of those ways is that despite seeming like not “kid people” several friends now have multiple kids and that’s their life now. Which isn’t really my thing. Other friends, I just feel I have less in common with than before, or they’ve gone off one deep end or another. Politics is a non zero factor. Conspiracy theories are another thing, unfortunately.

Now I’m worth what? Finish the sentence dammit!

Appreciate this very helpful comment.

Also I said I’ve been toxic at times and reiterated it in other comments. So thanks again for the block request

Pretty weird how before Stamets stank up this thread, most everyone was reasonable and most of my comments were upvoted.

Then the brigading and days-later weirdos like yourself show up just to throw out some hatred.

Yeah I’m totally wrong to write this post. I’m sure you read it too and didn’t just come here to defend your favorite cyberbully liar.

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Dude is a liar.

I spoke with other moderators who had recently banned him and got their reasoning and evidence. I then made my decision to ban him as well.

Within a couple of minutes of me pushing back on his asshole behavior he had banned me from several communities, most of which I either don’t look at or didn’t know existed. It was 100% a power tripping bullshit move. The guy clearly cares a lot about his image so he thinks he can say what he wants and then later launder his image by pointing at a modlog. I’ve never done the math but the percentage of my comments to get modded is pretty small. I’ve spent a lot of time commenting here. Covid and other factors led me to being too involved here at times. I acknowledged in the post and again will freely admit I’ve been toxic at times. But my post was trying to focus on the larger problem, which again, I am definitely a part of. This dude’s responding here to try and lift himself up by shitting on other people’s reputations. Which is fucking precisely what led me to have beef with him to begin with. I don’t feel like going back through his 15000 posts or whatever but if you found it I feel like you’d see what I’m saying. It was such a weird bullying thing to do

I got curious what blocked users would be saying here, unfortunately. But I do want to respond to a couple things.

• What you did to PugJesus was textbook cyber bullying. People have committed suicide over less. Deny it all you want or pretend it was a reasonable response to him being mean to you. You cannot change that. Plus, damn it was clearly a lot of effort, and in that way quite sad.
• You like to harp on my modlog. Two possibilities there. One, you really believe that most mod decisions are a good indication of “bad” in general. Or two, you need an easy gotcha. I’m gonna say it’s the latter.

If I believed your way of thinking is correct, I’d believe it was justified that I’ve been banned for calling people pieces of shit for anti-immigrant or homophobic views. Which happened on non-fediverse sites more than a couple times. But I don’t believe that.

I’d much rather be toxic by just saying mean words as a reaction to bad behavior than be a completely self unaware cyber bullying bigot.

I’m not in your clique. That’s a good thing for me. Enjoy condemning your political and other “enemies” all you want, I won’t be seeing it. You’re not reasonable nor reachable, so I won’t be trying to change your mind. For everyone else reading my post with an objective eye, they probably identified with it in some way.

Pretend that my lashing out is comparable or worse than the bile, hatred, etc I was writing about here but that’s just you needing to justify your poor behavior. I don’t care if you think I’m a toxic troll or think you can spin a modlog into a story like that. Now, I’ll revert to a better version of this place, if you can guess what that means.

Edit: also, classy of you to pretend I didn’t acknowledge that I am also part of the problem in the original post.

My point though is that the community and post are both pretty specifically geared toward people and personalities. It’s about “getting something off my chest” which implies it may be a thought you’d normally just keep to yourself. This makes it especially personal. To me, it takes mental gymnastics to ignore how personal these sorts of posts are and just consider them “topic-based”.

Having said that, all social media is always about people. Unless it’s a list of posts without any commentary whatsoever, and then it’s not social media anymore. This reminds me of a conversation I had years ago with a girl I had starting seeing. She said she doesn’t “get” reddit. I tried to explain that it’s somewhat interesting because of the comments. She said she would check it out, but that she wouldn’t be interested in comments. It was a confusing conclusion.

I guess we don’t have everything in common but I have you tagged as “seems cool” also. Thanks for this reply, it was very pleasantly said.

Again you are mistaking what I’m bothered by. I fully expected blowback. What actually bothers me is the fact that potentially hundreds or more of those dickheads were giddy at the fact that a bunch of people lost their jobs, literally due to where they were born. You can pretend that I “incited” that hate but it was extremely clearly already there. The comments that pissed me off had many upvotes and then the dog piling that happened further illustrated the popularity of those toxic viewpoints.

The long term difference for me in whether or not I engaged there is mainly that if I ignored the hatred spewing in that thread and if I called it out, is mainly that because I called it out I ended up blocking a LOT of users that I never want to interact with. So while I increased the negativity I saw there short term, it was negativity that very much was already there, and now I never have to talk to those psychopaths again. In fact it wouldn’t surprise me at all if some of them are in this very thread expressing the same kinds of hatred.

When exchanges like the one you’ve started here happen, it’s always pretty obvious why. You agree with them and disagree with me. You’re not unbiased though you’d love me to believe that, and whatever point I was making is one you either don’t care about or you disagree with. So I have to assume you also thought it was hilarious or a good thing that a bunch of Americans lost their job, because they “deserve it”. So move along now or cop to that shitty belief. I’m not going to benefit from someone trying to tell me that if I lash out against toxicity that I’ve actually created the toxicity that I’m lashing out against.

we should, at a minumum, agree to get of capitalism, so get on board with that at least.

Yes and I am, not that the people I’m disheartened by would ever know or care if I am or not

That thread was fucked. And no me being defiant isn’t the reason.

The mistake you seem to make is thinking that I’m mostly just personally offended by things said to me, whereas the truth is that I’m disgusted at the bile people have for one another, even innocent people.

You’re not wrong and I try to ignore some of the hate. But it does pile up over time. Not to mention this all definitely feels related to the societal collapse we see irl all the time. I wish it was easier for me to tune out the bad.

Again, you’re right but for me it’s more complicated than just to ignore it.

If you’re calling a 99% white religion an ethnicity and repeatedly refuse to explain, it’s pretty obvious what a person would conclude

When people make bold claims with no obvious backing for it, people end up pulling things out of their ass.

You still have not indicated what I’m supposed to know here. Saying something about a religion is disparaging an “ethnicity” for you but you won’t explain why. Citing the definition and having it mention that religion is usually part of it does not clear anything up.

Religion is not ethnicity, and your insistence that it is, without giving anything specific as to the thought process, is sus on your part. You have been given benefit of doubt but you’re not utilizing it.