When I make people feel wrong I feel really really really really really bad and it sticks with me forever

  • deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz
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    3 个月前

    “imagine what the next thing will be”.

    Be happy/excited for them they’ve taken a small step out from under the shadow of ignorance and into the light of knowledge. You helped them do that.

    Sometimes it’s like ripping off a plaster. A brief discomfort for the greater good.

    • quickenparalysespunk@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      3 个月前

      not all, but many NTs tend to see that (post-“victory” happiness) as smugness or gloating, etc.

      it’s not wrong to enjoy or to be optimistic for the other person, but they may sometimes feel that they’ve been defeated and which is often considered intrinsically a bad thing, or as a type of unwarranted aggression. so positivity after that can be interpreted as bad manners, cruelty, rudeness, any number of negative things.

      all I’m saying is, it pays to proceed cautiously if you value the relationship.