Title says it, apparently i’ve been “too much” for them to handle (and i recognize i was quite the bag of rocks in 2021).
But these last two years everything had been just fine (i apologized for my misbehavior, i finally got a job), everything was going great.
But now they suddenly felt they’ve “changed and matured” (their words, not mine) and that somehow does not allow us to be friends any longer.
Any advice?
I feel i’m losing my head over this.
That sucks, bud. Unfortunately literally the only thing to do is let it alone and move on with your life. If they get back in touch later, great, but otherwise they’re now just some people you used to know.
People are people, meaning everybody has their own thoughts and feelings. If you love them you’ll respect them and give them space. You don’t have to understand, you don’t have to like it, and you can even be frustrated or angry. You can also continue to love them and miss what you had, and you can even reach out to them periodically and gently probe to see if they are ready to talk more about your differences and if they are open to mending the rift. But for now, give them space. Think of it like a trip where you are far apart and can’t see each other and you are living your life as best you can. Think about yourself and the people who are willing to stand by you and enjoy who you are now. Be open to new friendships and new experiences, and look ahead.
