Recently a question came up in my life for reasons that are probably best explained with ADHD.

While it might appears to be google-able question the answer are all very different, I would like to hear your opinions.

Anyway the question that lead me to the question above is the following “assuming you would have a reasonable expectation to have sex with a person, e.g. you paid a prostitute, and that person would end up having sex with another person instead and you wouldn’t get to do it too, would you be cockold?”

Thanks.

  • TheBananaKing@lemmy.worldEnglish
    4·
    5 months ago

    It’s cuckold, as in cuckoo.

    And it’s specifically a humiliation fetish around watching your partner ‘cheat’.

    As such, it really only exists if you are in a nominally-monogamous relationship where you would generally find it hurtful for them to have sex with someone else.

    In the case of a sex worker, it’d be pretty freaking weird if you were hurt by them having other customers.

    • insufferableninja@lemdro.idEnglish
      3·
      5 months ago

      you’re conflating cuckold and cuckold fetish.

      a cuckold is a man whose nominally monogamous sexual partner is sexually unfaithful. cuckold fetish is deriving sexual gratification from being cuckolded.

      edit to add: cuckold is a very old fashioned word. the more recent form is the shortened “cuck”. As insults go “you and your wife mutually agree for her to have sex with other men, because you like it” wouldn’t really have the same impact as “your wife is having sex with other men without your knowledge or consent, because you are insufficient”.

      • Worx@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        1·
        5 months ago

        TBF, the sort of people I’d associate with calling someone a cuck are conservatives who aren’t understanding of other people’s links and so would use it as an insult anyway. Similar to “gay” (not a kink, but same sort of idea)

  • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    3·
    5 months ago

    I think of it as the guys who are turned on by humiliation in the context of their partner having sex with someone else. Like if they really like it when she seems to enjoy the other guy more, get off on the whole idea that they are not as good at pleasing her.

    Different from general hotwife stuff, which seems more like they get off on thinking she is near insatiable and they aren’t enough, in a different way, because any one guy just isn’t enough for her.