I see, that makes a lot of sense. Honestly though the idea of being more comfortable around us because we can’t “force ourselves on them” is really dumb. Like ignoring the fact that there’s more ways to force oneself onto someone else, most of us who are non-op can’t even penetrate if we wanted to, I can still get hard enough to do it but the last time I tried, it hurt really bad and became very irritated and swollen afterwards, but others I’ve known and dated can’t even get hard anymore at all, for them it’s physically impossible to penetrate someone else, surgery or not. I feel like many people out there just don’t understand this aspect and the fact that penis atrophy is a real thing, and even if you use it regularly the changes still very often make that type of activity impossible or extremely unpleasant.

Also yeah I was assigned male at birth. I don’t look it bc I’m lucky to have been able to get blockers and HRT when I was young :)