12/10 very cute bean with a very cute setup
what’s wrong with mint? :<
12/10 very cute bean with a very cute setup
what’s wrong with mint? :<
Yesterday was the first time in my life I came close to self-harm. I bought some bralettes and gaffs to, I don’t even know, try to look more feminine I guess? But I tried them on and I looked, for lack of a better description, breathtakingly revolting. So bad I think I must have disassociated for about fifteen minutes, no thoughts no emotions, just pulling them off me like live snakes. Then I had a breakdown.
I had to fight the urge all day yesterday and today to delete this account, and my matrix account, and discord, and any other account I could remember, fight the urge to isolate myself from everyone and everything so I would never have to be perceived by anyone ever again.
I was just trying to explain why you’re not finding the material you’re looking for, I am absolutely learning in a vacuum too.
My advice was not “have you tried not?”, it was a recommendation to do what other girlies have done, use their knowledge and experience, do what is already working. That’s exactly why we have spaces like this, and the matrix chatrooms, and other trans spaces.
Cis girls generally don’t do it the way you are trying to, and you will continue to have lesser results while you do it this way. Cis girls did not do this alone, you’re not alone, you don’t need to be alone.
But if you want to ignore me and be combative instead, then that’s up to you.
I feel like this isn’t the way most cis girlies learn about makeup, so you’re not finding much material to learn this way. The fundamentals come from parents, from big sisters, from friends, and most importantly from experimenting and finding what does and doesn’t work for them. A book can’t tell you what looks good on your face, we all have slightly different imperfections and insecurities, slightly different tastes and aesthetics.
Once you have that you build on it with more of the same, which results in the kinds of videos you’re seeing. You ask friends what they’re doing when they look good, what products they’re using, when a new style is trending girlies create shorts and videos for it, when you want to match an aesthetic there’s videos related to that aesthetic. You play, you mix and match, you share, you copy, and you innovate.
Stop looking for documentation and manuals, embrace the sisterhood to which all women belong.
My point is that corporations cannot be victims because they’re not people, they’re a legal construct. They cannot be victims any more than a table can be a victim when I spill my drink over it. The term “victim”, whether intentional or not, is an emotive word that invokes ideas of injustice and suffering.
Marketing teams and corporate executives convinced people and legal systems that corporations are people in an attempt to engender sympathy, personification, and to avoid responsibility for their own failures, like the case in this article where managerial and procedural failures by those in charge led to the ability for this ex-employee to be able to do what he did.
It’s their own fault if they didn’t take the reasonable precautions that anyone should be aware of when going in to business for profit.
Yes I did.
It’s their own fault if they didn’t take the reasonable precautions that anyone should be aware of when going in to business for profit.
Notice how in my original comment I added “through improper security” and “improper practices”.
If you are running a business and get robbed without security cameras, insurance, and other reasonable protective and preventative methods, then you are at fault.
victim blaming
Can’t tell if this is sarcasm, but corporations are not people, they are soulless, for-profit enterprises that will, for damn sure, abuse and exploit any one and any thing they can in the name of profit. They don’t get the defense of “victim blaming”.
If they open themselves up to malicious actors through improper security, or lawsuits due to improper practices, then that’s their own fault.
Thank you for this, your support really helped.
How have other transfems come out or explore their femininity more openly when they don’t look remotely feminine? I’ve been on HRT for 7 months or so, and I just don’t look feminine. I look a little more feminine than I did, but still not enough to be even close to looking natural or comfortable in feminine expression. It just… doesn’t look right. And that makes me feel weird which makes it look even worse.
I don’t want to come out to people, telling them that I feel like a woman, when I look and sound like a man. And it’s starting to limit me in doing feminine things that I need to do to look more feminine so it’s circular, I’m too insecure to book a hair or nail appointment because I look like a man. I hate all of it.
It feels like my partner wants to be supportive because it’s the right thing to do, but at an instinctive level she is unhappy and resentful as she was raised in an exceptionally conservative, highly-religious, eastern european family.
Which results in saying the right things, but pulling back short of any real support with passive aggression, apathy, and feigned ignorance. I’m not sure whether I’d prefer that to completely unsupportive.
Not so great. 6 months HRT.
I don’t look good in any feminine clothing. I’m too insecure to practice voice or makeup around my partner. Because I don’t look remotely femme I’m too insecure to look for a hairdresser.
My partner keeps pressuring me because I don’t like enough traditionally cis woman things, or don’t like them as much as I should, or that I still like some things that are not necessarily targeted towards cis women, and its ruining my self-confidence. I need local transfem friends I can reach out to and hang out with and go shopping with but its not easy being older and non-US.
Once step forward, three steps back.
America is even worse than I thought if so! I pay a third of that for estrogen, finasteride, and progesterone! And that’s in the UK, which is its own special hellhole…
Maybe I’m just too impatient but I struggled a lot getting much benefit out of TransVoiceLessons
Zhea is clearly exceptionally talented and has a near unique understanding of voice, but like 90% of the videos on that channel are pure theory. Things like “hearing vocal resonance”, “the difference between weight and resonance”, “exercises are BAD”, motivation tips, Q&As, and road maps.
I’m left feeling “What do I actually DO???”
*sets unrealistic expectations for myself cutely* tee hee :3
Do people still say blursed? If so, this is that.
Gosh now I regret forcing myself not to buy thigh highs or skirts or anything until I lose weight hehehe~
The comfy warm bath and shaving session does sound perrrrfect though, all the steam and soft girl smells (:
gosh yes! Mint plus the upgrades to Proton are what finally got me to move from Windows.
Ubuntu just had a bunch of tiny annoying problems that wouldn’t go away, that Mint either solves out of the box or offers simple GUI options to pick a preferred behaviour.