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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023
  • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoNews@lemmy.world•Rate of Young Women Getting Sterilized Doubled After ‘Roe’ Was OverturnedEnglish
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    5 days ago

    Honestly it’s so difficult to get done as it is that they don’t even need to outlaw. It’s virtually unobtainable for most women unless they already have “enough” kids, whatever that means to a specific doctor, or they travel to find a willing doctor.

    It took me 8 years to get it done because I’ve never reproduced (childfree by choice). And I’m one of the easier stories. I got it done at 27, in 2015, and while some doctors are more willing now, most aren’t. Especially in conservative areas.

    All they have to do is keep making doctors scared to offer proper reproductive care, make it risky and they stop going into that field. You don’t need to make it illegal, just impossible. Rich white people will still be able to choose, so they don’t care.

    I had to deal with a whole bunch of people asking me hypothetical questions. What if you regret it? (what if I regret having them?), what about your future partner? (If they are right for me they also don’t want kids, and I don’t plan to get married anyway). What if you change your mind? (I will adopt if that happens. I don’t believe sharing my junk genetics is important, and the chances of issues are high anyway since I’m also broken, and there are plenty of not-infant kids who need homes if I get maternal, but kids under 5 aren’t my jam and probably never will be, and I’m probably too negligent to raise them right anyway). Ultimately they couldn’t argue with my logic but it took years of finding the right doctors getting the right consultations, etc.

  • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Do I look like a cute girl like this😇😇English
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    28 days ago

    Gosh friend, I appreciate the vote of confidence, but really I can’t pull off that innocent - but not at all ~_^ - cute thing you’ve got going on. It’s just not in my wheelhouse and that’s ok. I’m that tiny 5ft inclusive feminist asshole who lets dudes have it at the slightest hint of misogyny or phobia, that’s my place. I’m pegged as a man more often than most of my mtf friends are, despite appearing fully feminine, because I’m no longer performing my femininity in a way cishet men are ok with. And I like it this way.

    You are rocking it, hun! You remind me, in this pic, of a woman I knew in my early 20s (also mtf, lovely lady!) She went and fixed my car for me by ripping off a part that’s unnecessary, and then put on this adorable geisha gown and we hit the town. Fucking blast, but she pulled off the gown so so much better than I could have because she just had the personality, the vibe, the towering 6 foot presence that makes you go “O.O…. ~_^”

    You have that sort of vibe and I’m here for it!

  • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.comtolinuxmemes@lemmy.world•In search of a non-existent thingEnglish
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    3 months ago

    I’m distro hopping because Ubuntu was perfect for me in basically every way, but I don’t want to be locked to a closed distro…

    I haven’t found anything I like yet, and I don’t have the skills (or motivation) to make core Debian feel the same.

    I’ll probably end up back on Ubuntu, at least for my server machine… it just worked the way I wanted it to, and the ui was lovely for me. Plus it’s stable enough that I can just keep it up indefinitely without issue.

  • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoPrivacy@lemmy.ml•DuckDuckGo Is Taking Its Privacy Fight to Data BrokersEnglish
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    3 months ago

    I think Mozilla has something like this as well (also a subscription).

    I’m of the opinion that, at this point, one of the best infosec things a company could do is include a subscription like this (assuming they are safe and work as intended) for all employees as part of their compensation package, much the way they sometimes provide financial consulting services or gym memberships. Maybe one of the providers will start offering enterprise packages.

    If we could purge large quantities of data on employees, it would be that much harder to use social engineering for hacking. As a bonus, if enough people got themselves purged, it would entirely disrupt the data harvesting and selling models, potentially making them worthless. That would be a huge win.

    But I don’t think many people are going to pay for it themselves. They just won’t care that much. So as a work perk, it incentivizes them to use it by being free.

    I’m not in IT or anything, but my close friend is in security, so it’s something I consider quite a bit.

    Edit to add: obviously I’d rather see it illegal to collect data and sell it and all but that’s not going to happen any time soon, and this could be a lot faster. And if it becomes a business expense, businesses might just push for legislation…

  • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Why are FTMs so invisible in the mainstream?English
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    4 months ago

    I think it’s this, but frosted with female social policing. So more misogyny.

    What I mean is that femininity, at least in modern history, has been massively scrutinized. Pants? Working? Sports? No makeup? Short hair? No curves? Small breasts? Not reproducing? Not feminine enough!

    So women are already under a microscope for how they look and act, and it’s a “natural extension” of it to accuse those who don’t fit the ideal even slightly of being trans, now that it’s a commonly-known thing. After all, if you aren’t feminine enough to be a woman in their limited view of what that means, what could you possibly be in their binary minds other than a man?

    I’ve been personally caught up by this despite being afab, looking very feminine (long hair, feminine face, etc), and being well below the male height average (5’2, or a whopping 7 inches below male average), just because I have a deep voice, no curves, don’t hold my tongue, and don’t wear makeup.