Those are good points. Safety is very important and valid, and I wish I would have touched on that earlier.

One thing I did in the beginning was to wear colorful cloth masks matching my outfits. I think doing that and hiding my receding hair line underneath hats did a huge job with allowing me to pass in people’s eyes.

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May I please have a brief explanation as this meme wooshed over this girl’s head 🤔

I know that you are feeling very down, but you have some part of you that is fighting this and is strong. Every time you post and show yourself and reach out, that part of you is showing itself to us.

Always remember that you have a kind heart and a beautiful soul and you are worthy of love. Thank you for sharing with us.

That is so awesome!

Dang near every time I am in front of a mirror, there’s this cute girl staring back at me and I cannot help but smile and say hi to her using the full name I chose. The immediate and joyful recognition that, “Hey! I’m that girl! Yaay!!” has such an astounding, affirming and euphoric effect on the rest of my day.

I loved your post and I am so glad you are happy. Thank you so much for sharing this part of you.

Somewhere, I can’t recall if it was on the fedi or discord, I saw the term gock (girl cock) and thought that was cute.

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Girl listen to this 54 year old telling you that no one ever starts transitioning too late. If it makes you happy, don’t look back.

It took me decades to get over my self hatred. But it doesn’t need to take you that long and honey you are doing amazing and you are stronger than you realize. It takes huge guts to come back and be here. Do not be ashamed. You are a badass.

That psychiatrist sounds like a fucking idiot. Fucking yikes. You are not a bad person but you need a better therapist. Keep working on it, mental health can take a long time to smooth out but you can do it. If I can do it, you can do it. 💜

I started transitioning at 52 years old. I didn’t have any idea what gender dysphoria actually was until I was 51. At 49 I was misgendered over the phone. A woman called me “ma’am” like 5 times. I had no idea why that felt so good.

Eventually I realized that I am a woman and that I’ve always been a woman and started investigating what I could do about this.

There’s no time limit, and transitioning is a choice. For me it was the correct one. I knew there could be negative things in my future but i felt that no matter what, my newly found sense of self love and caring outweighed any consequences or side effects. Chasing the euphoria and self care became the best thing to ever happen in my life.

Sadly the consequences have recently arrived. I lost family over it and I was kicked out of the house a month ago. But I will never look back and say that my transition was a mistake because I calculated those risks. The family members I lost were already bigots and would have never come around. The friend I lost over becoming unhoused was sadly fair weathered.

Transgender people can face difficult challenges negotiating relationships and sometimes we aren’t accepted. That can be a very daunting thing to think about before beginning. But for me, I am glad I can see those people for who they really are. People that I can no longer tolerate in my life.

I will tell you what helped me to decide. I literally wrote down lists. 1 list of Reasons to transition. 1 list of things that I remembered from my past to help me see why it might be a good thing. 1 list of challenges I would have to face. Writing everything down over the course of several days was exactly what I needed.

Only you can make this decision. And it is a decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly. But you can always start HRT and stop if you don’t think it’s helping. There is no shame in trying it even if it’s just for a week or a month.

I wish you the best. Whether you decide to move forward or not is up to you. But even if you don’t, just the process of self discovery is so important and I am happy that you are at least willing to explore and learn more about yourself. Whatever you decide, you can keep that momentum going.

Be good to yourself.

Yay

Let it gooo

Let it goooooo

Put on that tie, look like a pro

I don’t care if it’s real or clipped on

Let it hang down low

You make it look so dang good any day!

Oh sorry my brain was frozen

I use the word folks regularly :(

That makes me sad

I hate to say this but your mother may never come around. Those are very selfish comments and she sounds like a closet narcissist. There is no need to come out twice, you may end up with even more trauma. Those comments she made are huge red flags.

I would highly recommend making plans to do this without them and make an exit plan in case they fully reject you. It’s your life to live, not theirs, and you don’t need their permission. But I agree that you may need to bide your time and plan this out. Be safe first.

If you don’t have a therapist, try to get one asap. Self care is super duper important. Work on stealth euphoria. Nice underclothes, taking care of your hair and nails are great starting points.

It is certainly sus that this person didn’t link anything, not even a screen shot of what this “random reddit poster” actually said.

I just hope the league survives this stuff…

Shaving had been a huge issue for me at first. My skin hates blades, super sensitive no matter what I did. The first shaver I found was so good but they seem to have stopped making, it was called Flawless Legs and had 4 rotating heads. But sadly I dropped it and then the battery eventually went out completely.

But this replacement I found is just as good. It’s a 3 head shaver and gets a pretty close shave. It’s by Vogoe and runs about 30$ on Amazon. I will try to attach a picture. It’s really easy to clean and I swear I need to buy a second one once I get some income. I also got a single head “conair” that has a bunch of attachments and it works ok.

I love that outfit and you look great! I want those pants 💜

One thing that super helped me the first time I went into a public restroom was that I was using a face mask. I try to wear cloth masks that match my clothing. I became more comfortable in public in general wearing masks in the first few months of transition.

The first few times though, I wasn’t even really wearing fem clothing. I just decided that I needed to go and felt icky about using the ‘mens’ room. The other thing that helped was that it was a restroom in an office building so not much traffic through it at all. It was maybe 3 weeks later that I finally got pants from the woman’s section at Target and that helped even more.

That first time I went in public, I stood up to pee. As soon as I was done and out the door in the hallway I realized that felt pretty dysphoric and also might call attention to me. At home I started practicing sitting down and realized how amazing and gender euphoric this felt.

Sorry if I am meandering and rambling a little but I thought maybe my experience might help.

I hope it gets easier for you. Take one step at a time. You are doing something right if you are getting welcomed like this. 💜

Edit: not to say that if someone isn’t getting welcomed that they are doing anything wrong. It may take time to find an accepting group of people. 💜

Dear Pueblo, Colorado:

I am indeed one of the queers doing things to the soil, because each step I take upon it is blessed with my presence. And I shall keep my arms and feet inside the mixer at all times.

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My great aunt was a JW. She lived a fairly long life but it could have been longer. she refused care at the end because of her beliefs. Unreal the control that religions have over people in the guise of morality and an afterlife. So stupid.

Don’t forget thrift stores, you can get old media there super cheap and some thrift stores support good causes so you still aren’t giving money to the shitty companies but you are helping the thrift store survive and helping someone that needs it to keep a job.

I am so glad you reconsidered. You are worth it and you are a good person. Dont give into the bad thoughts. It’s fucking hard. Therapy has helped me so much in that regard. Keep fighting honey. We’ve got your back.

I used to smoke, and then I stoped lighting myself on fire.