I don’t worry too much about that when meeting new people. The thing I’m afraid of is misgendering people I’ve known for a very long time. I want very much to use the correct name and pronoun but the ones I’ve known them by for the past decade or whatever sometimes slip past the filter.

Edit: and since these are longstanding relationships, I’m more concerned with their feelings than I would be a stranger.

I had a similar thought. While I agree with the chorus that this is creepy AF and I in no way condone it, as a man who had to wade through these garbage dating apps to, fortunately, meet a long term partner I can attest to the profound sense of loneliness they cause. When I think back on it I can honestly see why some might consider this.

These apps suck, but in today’s world they aren’t always optional. My specific situation was living somewhere new at the beginning of the pandemic. It wasn’t really possible to meet people organically.

Edit: spelling

I agree with this take.

I like Star Wars fine. If they make something, I’ll probably watch it. But I don’t consider myself a fan. I don’t keep track of the lore and would be hard pressed to tell you the plot of anything I hadn’t seen recently. Which is a long way of saying I’m in the don’t have a strong opinion camp.