yea but only if i can pat you on the head while you do so

“women should behave a certain way to not justify misogyny” comes off about as well as “black people should behave a certain way to not justify racism”, imo

i appreciate your intentions, but this is not the way

god, yeah, everytime someone talks shit about a maga head by saying something like “he’s got a small dick!!”, i wanna blow them up 💀

context: i am a transgender man

the 360 camera is so neat. i love that it gives the feeling of being there with you

this comic is wild

i’m sure someone, somewhere, has used this argument in a demeaning way to trans people, but i can’t imagine that’s common among actual allies. it feels more like something that the right would use as a purity argument among itself, except they lack the logical rigor required to do so

and then it depicts the guy as actually being affected by that argument, as if he wouldn’t just go “yeah but it’s gender affirming care for my real gender that i really am” 💀

i poked around the author’s bsky a bit, and i think she must have had some shithead say something like this directly to her, because there’s a comment asking about using the same argument in a different context (“i was arguing that, since i have such easy access to testosterone, trans men / my trans son should” https://bsky.app/profile/warstrike.bsky.social/post/3mnaipvuvp22y) and she was like, yeah that seems fine

so there is some nuance here that i think is absolutely not being portrayed by the comic, namely that it’s implied this is a common part of this broader argument, rather than a specific, shittier flavor of it, where instead of trying to get people to empathize with trans people, we’re using trans people to imply certain cis people are shitty (e.g. “he’s not a real man because he got <gender-affirming procedure>”, with the implication that gender-afffirming procedures aren’t necessary for cis people of some arbitrary caliber)

i think this may also miss the usually implied “for cis people” that’s included with this kind of dunking? ofc, it’s logically consistent to interpret that as being demeaning towards trans people, but i think it’s mostly an acknowledgement that, ofc trans people (on average) need it more, we went through the wrong puberty (without addressing the nuances of how much an individual may or may not want to transition medically)

there are just different implications for cis people getting gender affirming care than trans people. it’s different if you’re unhappy about what you got as the result of the correct puberty (ignoring for a moment that there are some trans people who can/did go through the correct puberty and may still need gender affirming care)

ofc, we should be striving for a society where anyone can get the gender affirming care they need to feel comfortable in their body. there’s just a lot of nuance about this situation that i think is both not covered by the comic, and even more that is possibly missed entirely

ah yes, from the evil 90s,

taking you at your word that you’re being genuine, this meme is referring to the common situation where a cis man is fetishizing a trans woman while assuming she still has her default hardware (i.e. hasn’t had bottom surgery) and asking inappropriate questions to her (“how big is it”)

you may direct further questions to me via DM; asking these questions in the context of this meme seems to be being received poorly, for understandable reasons, even if your intentions are genuinely to understand

kind of similar, i read so much gay shit on webtoons that i forget they have (a majority of) straight stuff 💀

since we’re talking about “things that could invoke this feeling without one being an egg”, i think it’s really interesting how i (primarily a homoromantic man) also find girl’s love media very relatable. i think it has a lot of overlap with the themes in boys love (social stigma of same sex relationships and whatnot), so it makes sense, but isn’t necessarily intuitive

i am also anti-AI, so i understand if you don’t want to engage with me. that said, i am curious if you’ve produced anything of note with your “tool” here. as anti-AI as i am for economic, environmental, moral, and social reasons, i also just don’t think it’s very useful or good at what it does

i ask more as a query about whether or not anyone has managed to wrangle something useful out of that cursed tech

incidentally, the link you provided is broken for me

i don’t think i reinvented the wheel, but if there was a better way to implement authoring frome data with hitboxes, i would love to hear it

https://bsky.app/profile/thegrainreaper.bsky.social/post/3mmagpyhmls2q

feeling pretty good about my 12/25 among these comments (if you swap “as a woman” for “as a trans man”)

ladies. 😏

okay, sure, but i am a trans person and i have independently concluded that i don’t think it’s cool. sure “it’s only deadnaming if you think it’s literally is the thing we’re calling it”, but the human brain doesn’t work like that; if someone has a strong enough response to it (e.g. they suffered trauma from being deadnamed), then they’re going to have that response before they go “oh actually they don’t mean it because it’s directed at a corp”. i don’t think “dunking on elon musk, who has plenty of other shit to dunk on” is really worth doing that to somebody

(idk why you keep bringing up he didn’t build anything? i know? you don’t need to use the word “deadname” to make that point?)

and i’m too lazy to check every room i’m in and be like, “hey, is casually pretending like we’re doing this evil shitty thing (that’s actually justified bc we’re dunking on a shithead!!) going to be a trigger for you?” (which, honestly, would still be better than just assuming it’s fine)

(if it’s not clear, my issue is more with people who literally use the phrase “i’m going to deadname twitter” or “the only time it’s OK to deadname something is twitter” or whatever)

it’s like… look, there’s a reason we put actual deadnaming content behind a content warning. i’m basically treating it the same way, because even if it is not the literal act of deadnaming a real person, it’s still pretending that something traumatic and evil is a cool and normal thing to do, which i do not fuck with, even in jest

i’m not equating the two, i just don’t think it’s worth triggering trans people who have actually been hurt by deadnaming, just to flex on a faceless piece of shit corporation that does not care and is not hurt by it

(to be clear, this is more about using the literal phrase “i will deadname twitter” than calling x “twitter” itself; for that, see my second point)

i feel like we’re in agreement, except for the conclusion we arrived at about it

i just don’t like it when people act like saying (literally) “i will deadname twitter” will hurt twitter more than the trans people who might have actually been deadnamed. i think it’s a waste to trigger them to act like calling x “twitter” is a slur or smth

going to get on my soapbox about X for a moment for two things

1. people who say “twitter is the only time i’ll deadname something”, like it’s a statement that fucking matters at anyone at all, when i don’t want deadnaming to EVER be something we’re treating as OK

2. calling X “twitter” is just cope for people who can’t move off the fucking app and want to pretend like musk didn’t successfully take it over, ruin it, and turn it into a nazi child porn site. call it the shit garbage app that it is, the thing you liked called “twitter” is dead

not directed at anyone in particular or you, OP, just wanted to get this off my chest

i genuinely do not “intuitively understand” this idea. there’s nothing contradictory about being a hoe and a housewife

can you like, explain this? i really don’t understand how having multiple sexual relationships, specifically, diminishes one’s ability to have emotionally fulfilling relationships. if anything, i might be inclined to think they would have more emotionally fulfilling relationships 💀

i think the way you’re describing the process as “screwing around, forming and cutting off attachments” really shows that you think of it in a very black and white sort of way. one can have casual / fwb sex with their friends, and still have a friend relationship with that person. one can even have one-off sex with an acquaintance or stranger, and even if you never meet again, it doesn’t really make it a “cut off” relationship; if you met again, it would be pleasant, circumstances just may not arrange it

just because it’s a more emotionally involved process for you or some people you’ve encountered, doesn’t make it a universal truth

oh, i guess beehaw doesn’t federate with lemmy.world still, so you probably didn’t see the other reply to my post…

basically, the second panel has the sylveon in a vest that’s covering a hoodie you can see in the third panel. the author just didn’t draw in the act of removing it, so it’s kind of weird

but there’s nothing about it that would really suggest it’s AI

i don’t think it is?