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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • I fucking LOVE dancing! I do contra, which is a very spinny partner dance (that means eye contact is useful against vertigo, so it’s harder for you and your partner if you don’t make it). My first time, they told us about the ear trick, which is just looking at their ear, to avoid discomfort while still providing a balance point.

    Contra also got me more comfortable with physical touch from strangers, because it’s got very firm rules about how and when to touch, so there were no surprises. I 100% hyper focused on it, and people were only excited that a young person was showing so much interest. They also have a long history of gender neutral dances :)





  • My stepmom lived in one of the most liberal towns in Massachusetts, running a Montessori program before she and my Fox News watching dad got married. (We never actually talked about politics because they “had an agreement,” but I have to assume she was very liberal- probably not very left though)

    She started voting republican after a few years :(





  • I don’t know how many 28+ year old virgins you’ve met, but I know like 5-6, none of whom are completely socially inept(I have really nerdy hobbies? I don’t know why I know so many), and only one would be at all cool with another person making a joke about it, but still probably not a random aunt.

    The one other exception I can think of is the religiously celibate, who might be a-okay with it from their aunt to cheer up a cousin, but I’m sure not doing it.


  • You cheer them up by telling them that at least they don’t have to deal with [insert bad present from an ex here] and she doesn’t have to buy any extra presents this year.

    If that doesn’t work, you base it off of their exes’ behavior: for example if they got sloppy drunk, you say that at least she doesn’t need to DD/babysit this year. If they were loud, you say that at least she’s not going to suffer permanent hearing damage.





  • I sometimes have medium length nails (3-5 mm past the fingertip), though I tend to just grow my own out, and I do it entirely for myself. I have a bunch of different kinds of nail polish and stencils for making cool patterns and it satisfies my inner elementary school librarian urge to dress up for even very minor holidays.

    People have come up to me and told me that my nails are too long for them to find attractive, which is a bizarre non sequitur imo. I don’t know why the assumption is that any self-decoration is intended as a sexual signal: my ideal nail-based interaction is that a little kid asks about them and I get to tell them about Arbor Day or national soup day or something.

    Sometimes they make life more difficult, and then I either find workarounds (opening pull tabs with a spoon, for example) or cut them, depending on how much time I have and how much I like my current nails.

    I get that they’re not for everyone, but I like them, so I wear them. It’s okay if others don’t like them, they don’t have to wear them.