I read every line and looked at every picture. I feel we owe it to them, to at least look at their faces and read their stories.

They were so happy and beautiful. Clearly very loved.

Archived link from the NYT article:

https://archive.md/uxfZS

I’m from Australia, that looks like a huntsman.

When I first moved here and saw one I freaked out and begged my husband to catch it. He laughed and said they are good spiders, and very fast so hard to catch anyway.

That spider lived above the window blinds, and I realised I would have to sweep the dead bugs off the windowsill every few days.

He definitely became an honoured guest!

Archived link for the lazy: https://archive.md/84xvC

It’s beautiful! The post isn’t public on imgur or I would upvote you there too!

I agree, losing it would feel like losing the library of Alexandria. We do need more doing this!

Beautifully written.

Signed, another 40 year old millennial.

I have nerve pain and understand the feeling of the meds not taking the pain away, and the knowledge that there is a trade off with taking them. I have refused to up my dose, but try literally everything else.

Unfortunately I am allergic to codiene and natural opoids, and so tramadol is my long term pain management medication.

I also take broad spectrum cbd oil and flower, triple strength fish oil for inflammation, magnesium, etc. I have also been using lignocaine patches over the nerve roots after reading a study that showed promising results, and despite it not making any sense to me that they should work topically, it does seem to help.

Besides medications and supplements, I use a TENS unit, IR heating pad, ice packs, massage gun, and positioning to reduce pain on bad days.

I have tried every locally available treatment, experimental medication, therapy, consulted with pain doctors and surgeons. Unfortunately nothing has helped so far.

On good days, I can spend 4 - 5 hours up at most, and will pay for it the next day. Most of my time is spent in a zero gravity bed.

I don’t like taking the pain meds, but acknowledge that taking them means I can do more. Push further. It’s not a tradeoff I like either, so most of the time I don’t.

Thank you!

Yeeah, I watched the first little bit of it, and it’s a rather disjointed collection as well.

Got a guy describing the working conditions in the usa. That seems on point, then a girl ranting about how her guests came over and ate half a fruit (left the other half of the plum uneaten) and drank only one sip of a water bottle, and how wasteful they were and how it got on her nerves. Then makes a show of finishing their “disgusting” half eaten plum and gross sipped on water bottle.

That’s not a boring dystopia, it’s a lady mad at wasteful guests. I suppose it could be tangentially related to a wasteful society contributing to the dystopia, but her example of guests in her home not finishing every bite of food and drink they were offered is just weird. Also, how are you going to go on a massive rant about wasteful guests while providing them single use water bottles.

Me too! My husband teases me about it. I take it and get sleepy. Zzzz

A similar sort of fridge was very common in Australia, you can still find then in antique shops very easily.

They use a tray of water and hessian fabric to cool the inside.

https://www.oldtreasurybuilding.org.au/belongings/the-refrigerator/

The clay fridge looks interesting!

This is very beautiful, and very sad.

I’m old, and maybe I’m wrong, but I feel that if jealousy is strong enough that it warrants making changes in how you relate with other people and there are many conversations about it… Then perhaps poly just isn’t working for the two of you in your current state.

That’s not to say that jealousy cannot exist in a healthy poly relationship, it is a human emotion after all, and colours all kinds of relationships - even friendships. I just think that jealousy related relationship turmoil is … not healthy poly.

Also, wanting to deny Cheddar the things you denied yourself for the sake of your interpretation of her feelings, not her requests, is retaliatory and not healthy.

Lots to unpack here.

If you value Cheddar and want things to work long term it may be time for both of you to step back and turn towards each other, get to the root of all these strong feelings on both sides, before you involve (and very possibly hurt) others.

Well, I think the self driving taxis across the us apparently need human interaction every 6 minutes on average… So are they self driving? I don’t know.

We can’t use our phones and drive, but someone can have a screen and drive 6 cars at the same time…

https://svgur.com/

<3

Then double check that you are registered to vote!!!

My favourite article of clothing is my pink cape by Review Australia. Since buying it we moved to the tropics so I never get to wear it, but I love it so much.

There’s just something about it.

I have traveled to very conservative countries and have never found the sort of puritanical hand wringing that comes from a certain subset of Americans.

I say this as an American expat who has lived everywhere from Hawaii to the bible belt, to New York.

Can you imagine the pain and anxiety you would cause a biological woman who does not look feminine enough for your line of reasoning here?

You see her in the restroom and act like she doesn’t belong there - maybe you say something, maybe you keep your “discomfort in your vulnerable place” to yourself, but your stupid ideas about what a woman is and how one should look in order to be accepted into a bathroom are hurtful.

I was in an art class last month with a lovely young woman who has pcos. She is a Sikh woman, and therefore does not remove her facial hair.

She had a beard that would put a young man to shame, and now it occurs to me that had she been unfortunate enough to be born in America, she would have had to choose between honouring the basic tenets of her religion, or conforming so she is not shunned - or worse, assaulted for using the womens room.

https://www.learnreligions.com/some-sikh-women-have-facial-hair-2993341