it’s not a choice you are entitled to.
Just… Wow.
The true test of being kind is not just empowering others when it makes you feel good, but empowering others when their choice makes you uncomfortable.
Someone absolutely has the right to say “my life has been fucked up enough already, don’t tell me, I don’t want to know.”
The truth is you would take that way from them just so you can feel good about yourself, whether it caused depression, or suicide, or hurt. You would take their choice away because you don’t agree with it so you could feel “just” whether it re victimizes them or not.
“Please watch the following 15 hours of video we found on your uncle’s laptop of you getting raped when you were 12 so you can understand what level of trauma you should be feeling.”
Vs.
“We found out some horrible things that happened to you as a child, do you want to know?”
One of these options is kind and also empowers the victim, can you guess which one?