mrosswind [she/her]

Okay, hear me out. I think Stalin might have some influence in Russia. Like, not as much as Spain, obviously, but at least as much as in the US

Your comment was not about a particular trans woman who identified in a particular way, and it wouldn’t have made any sense if it was. It was about relationships between men and trans women in general not qualifying as straight.

If this was about a single comment, I could believe you just had trouble expressing yourself. But you’ve had every opportunity to take back your original comment, and instead you’ve deflected, argued that you’re technically correct, and blamed everyone else for ‘misinterpreting’ you by reading the words you wrote. Honestly, I think you expressed yourself just fine, but you don’t like hearing what that says about you.

I believe you don’t want to be transphobic, but when you’re so focused on trying to win internet arguments that you can’t reflect on what you said, you’re not going to be able to do the work of self-examination needed to get rid of transphobic beliefs.

I won’t be responding to you anymore in this thread. I hope you take something away from all this.

That paraphrase is an accurate characterization of what you said. The example you gave of someone being “a little queer” was a guy dating a trans woman. That is a transphobic thing to say, and there’s really no getting around that.

The charitable reading of your comment was to assume you didn’t mean to be transphobic, and that if you thought about it more, you would change the point you were trying to make, and say something else. Since your response to being called out was to go on and on defending yourself while tying yourself in knots refusing to see the meaning of what you wrote, that’s clearly not a reasonable assumption.

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Edit: this was me agreeing to pm the contents of the removed comment

Your original comment is in the modlog, and it’s not ambiguous. It’s not a question of a “good faith” or “bad faith” interpretation, it’s just straightforwardly transphobic.

Honestly before I really stared thinking about it, there were times where I was jealous of people saying the voice you use is fairly feminine. Now I get that when I hopefully start voice training, even if they said “your voice reads 100% on the feminometer” I would say “that’s great, please help me smash it to pieces and build my actual voice”

For most things, I’m looking for some combination of ‘feminine’ and ‘fits me’. I’m taking some time to take in the fact that for voice, I need it to be solidly both. I feel like I have fewer and fewer misunderstandings about what I want out of voice therapy, and hopefully that brings me closer and closer to starting.

Looking into possibly being able to get professional voice training has made realize how bad my voice dysphoria is.

I’m hoping if professional doesn’t work out, understanding this instead of burying it will help me do self-training when I couldn’t before.

My mom used to use my now-deadname in every single sentence when she talked about me to avoid using my pronouns. I thought choosing a fully feminine name might stop her from using that strategy, but I’m seeing her again this week and nope! She will use my name rapid fire to tell stories about me to family for 20 minutes and not use a pronoun once.

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I don’t mean I felt overwhelmed for six months straight. I mean that I would occasionally consider it, quickly think “that’s too big of a deal for me to handle. I don’t really care that much anyway” and then bury the idea for a few weeks or months. Looking back, neither part was true, and even if I did care as little as I told myself, it still would have been worth it.

It sounds like you have a particular idea in mind of what it’s supposed to feel like to be a trans woman and how that’s separate from you. The range of experiences we have is broader than that though.

In general I try to avoid thinking about “what would I tell my pre/early transition self” because it just makes me sad about things I can’t change. Despite that, the version of me I most wish I could get a message to is 6-12 months before starting hrt.

I felt so overwhelmed thinking about all of the positive and negative consequences that it took a long time to get myself to the point I felt like I was ready. With hindsight, I could explain to myself that I was ready a lot earlier than I thought I was.

The positive aspects were everything I wanted and more. Some of my worries were practical, and I’m glad I took those seriously, but they were much more solvable than I feared, and I could have figured something out even if they were more difficult than they turned out to be. I also worried that maybe I didn’t want it as much as I thought I did, which wasn’t remotely true, but even if it was, I could have stopped after a few months having learned something about myself and with basically no harm done.

Im, at heart, a cis-het dudebro

I have this image of myself sometimes, and at this point it’s pretty comedic to imagine him taking estrogen for some “ironic” reason he jokes about but can’t actually explain.

♫ …that wriggled and jiggled and wiggled inside her… ♫

Damn, that sounds like way more fun than doing abstract social commentary. But if I’m understanding it correctly, he left his bones alone? so like, whats the point?

Well, it’s been two months and not a single person got my ‘trans broken arm syndrome’ cosplay. I had to give up on the idea, and I had my cast taken off. 0/10 that was not worth it at all. I picked the wrong bit to fully commit to realism. At least my insurance covers costumes and costume designers.

Not just a position of power, but a ‘progressive’ who’s going to take on both the democrats and the republicans without getting sidelined, co-opted, or paid off. If he were genuinely that clueless, we could expect him to be a talked into staunch zionism his first week in office, and then a year after his term ended, say he just found out that that meant supporting isreal.

That’s exactly where I started. Found a poofy, frilly white long sleeve women’s shirt at a thrift store. It would have looked out of place with the guy clothes I wore at the time, but at a ren fair it was just generically in character

The White House, America, George Washington, Jesus, and Mount Rushmore were all born the same year.

Feel old yet?

You don’t have to talk about something you hate, but I’m curious if you’re doing it physically or simulated or both.

You could change your birthday then

Using the fact that my injection leaked as an excuse to drink a grapefruit seltzer