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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • I didn’t think this is an unpopular opinion.

    My experience may not be everyone’s, but I’m in my mid 40s and I practice this for the most part and consistently run into it with new partners as well.

    There are some things that are pretty obvious. But once things are getting going I always ask if it’s ok before I take another step further if it isn’t abundantly clear and asked for.

    I learned dating in the days of “the guy must make all the moves and asking is a mood killer.”. I like how things are now. I like that asking is not just accepted but generally becoming the norm. In a way it’s kind of like dirty talk, saying the things you’d like to do. Even if the other person isn’t ready for what you’re suggesting it can still lead down other fun paths that they are ready for and willing to do

    Of course this is all YMMV with different cultures and different people. But this has been my experience.





  • One thing I read once and applied to my last dog and my friend has done with his: use as the hand gesture for sit bringing both your hands up to your chest, like kids do when afraid. Dogs tend to respond to visual commands as much as or more than vocal. This way if someone is scared of the dog and makes that scared gesture, the dog will (in my experience in most cases) sit.

    And in general, consistency is the most important thing. In the end, teach your dog whatever commands you want with whatever cues you want, but consistency is the key across the board. This includes initially how anyone interacts with your dog during the initial training phases, if possible. This helps reinforce the specific training you’re doing and that not just you should be able issue commands