For context, I got mine done just over two years ago. No complications (as of yet…). I’ve also got two kids already.

A few guys at work were absolutely baffled by my decision, and I even heard one was questioning my masculinity.

  • HelixDab2@lemm.ee
    7·
    8 months ago

    I did it when I was married to my ex-wife. I didn’t want kids.

    Then we got divorced.

    You know what’s really awful? Dating and having to worry about pregnancy. That was never a concern. I have zero regrets. If I wanted to have small creatures running around my house that would destroy everything I cared about, I would get a few additional cats.

    • Hadriscus@lemm.ee
      2·
      8 months ago

      My cats make for great children. They don’t all respond to their names, but I never have to clean their arses

  • tquid@sh.itjust.works
    4·
    8 months ago

    As for your co-worker, ask him if he would be able to tell the difference in your masculinity if you fucked him.

  • GlitterInfection@lemmy.worldEnglish
    41·
    8 months ago

    I know someone who got the snip pretty young because he and his wife didn’t want kids. Years later friends of ours had kids and it changed their mind. He got it undone and they had a kid.

    Seems like a minor thing to do and condoms are the worst.

    • PiecePractical@midwest.social
      2·
      7 months ago

      I actually never minded using condoms and even still, I wished I’d done it earlier. So much better, even the stretch where we still used rubbers because the wife wasn’t ready for creampies yet, I came so much easier knowing there was virtually zero chance of pregnancy.

      • GlitterInfection@lemmy.worldEnglish
        11·
        7 months ago

        I have a larger than average and less sensitive than average penis, so as an insertive partner, condoms just aren’t usable for me.

        As a receptive partner condoms hurt. Like burning tearing sensation painful.

        I found out in my late 30s that there is a common ingredient in cheap water-based lubes that many people are sensitive towards, which causes that unpleasant burning sensation. Most condoms are pre-lubed with the stuff.

  • ironhydroxide@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    3·
    8 months ago

    Never wanted kids. Wife agreed early on in relationship. 8yrs in got snipped mostly for risk mitigation with recent abortion laws. No regrets, even easier and less stress.

      • mosiacmango@lemm.ee
        1·
        8 months ago

        Some abortion clinics have shifted to giving more and more vasectomies, as demand is apprently way up.

  • Neato@ttrpg.networkEnglish
    3·
    8 months ago

    I suggest getting a urologist who does “no-scalpel” vasectomy. It uses a sharp forceps to poke a single hole instead of making 2 incisions. Has about 1/10th the rate of complications (already very low) and heals quicker.

  • HotChickenFeet@sopuli.xyz
    2·
    8 months ago

    I got the snip when I was 28. Specifically sought out a scalpeless procedure.

    Worst part was the awkwardness of just being on the table naked with some dude going to work on my genitals. Virtually no pain, really for me. The only time was when I decided I was done being particularly lazy/careful and did some cooking. Needed to crouch to get a pain and was VERY uncomfortable.

    If you know you don’t want (any, or more) kids, just don’t. Generally speaking, the side effects are worse for your partners to use birth control etc, and its just a one time thing for you.

  • muffedtrims@lemmy.world
    2·
    8 months ago

    Just got mine done this past October. Almost a year after kid number 2.

    We had 7 years of infertility issues before our first kid. Then 4 years later had our 2nd. I told the wife shortly after we found out she was pregnant with number 2 that when this kid pops I’m getting the snip. She was offended that I didn’t talk to her about that decision because she wanted to talk about more.

    Well, by birthing time of number 2 there had been enough complications for her that she’s ready for me to get the snip. I don’t regret waiting a bit for her to make sure she’s fully good with the decision though.

    If you do get it done make sure to give the follow-up samples after the fact to ensure the procedure worked.

  • CH3DD4R_G0B-L1N@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    2·
    8 months ago

    I’ll give your absolute door-stop of a coworker the benefit of the doubt and say maybe he’s heard a common misconception that getting the snip lowers testosterone.

    Sucks to be those misinformed idiots cuz it’s probably the best thing I ever did for my marriage and sex life in one cheap go.

  • Volkditty@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    8 months ago

    I knew I never wanted to have kids. My wife and I discussed it in depth while we were dating; she felt the same way. Even then, I waited a couple years after getting married just on the off chance that either of us might change our mind. I ended up doing it when I was in my early 30s around 8 years ago and never once have I regretted it.

  • dumples@midwest.socialEnglish
    2·
    8 months ago

    I recommend every man to read Ejaculate Responsibly. The basic concept is that the options for men to prevent pregnancy such as condoms and vasectomy. They are safe with no side effects. Most vasectomies are reversibility. Get one. I’m planning on getting one after having all the kids I want.

  • mojofrododojo@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    8 months ago

    and I even heard one was questioning my masculinity.

    yeah everyone knows you have to breed your way to the top.

    oh wait. no, that’s fucking idiotic. you work with at least one moron.

  • nick@midwest.social
    2·
    8 months ago

    Best fifteen bucks i ever spent.

    I got it done when i was 33, booked it the day I got medical insurance again; that was 11 years ago, no regrets at all.