SbisasCostlyTurnover

Hey.

I’m Dan. A 36 year old father of two who doesn’t have nearly as much time as he needs to do half the things he wishes he had the time to do.

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I switched jobs when my second was born. Id previously been working 4 nights a week. I got on well with the shifts and I had plenty of time with my then only child.

    Suddenly I had to change my job, and I found myself working 8-5/5 days a week. I get maybe two hours with my son a day, and that’s usually when things are winding down for the day and after I’ve been on my feet picking orders all day.

    I feel like I’m missing out on him growing up in a way I didn’t with his big sister. I do my best on weekends to give him what I used to be able to give his sister, but there’s double the work now that there’s two of them and my partner works those days so whilst also trying to be the fun and engaged dad, I’ve also got three meals to cook, household chores to do and all the other stuff I need to do that I can’t because I’m always working.

    Fucking suuuuucks.





  • Can only speak to my own experience but mainly, it was having kids. I went from working four nights a week with plenty of time to eat properly, exercise plenty and ensure my mental health was doing okay.

    Suddenly I’ve got two young kids (5 & 2) and I’ve had to switch to a 45hr a week day job that’s got significantly less walking than my previous one. I don’t see my partner (she works when I’m on my weekends) and so we sort of just eat whenever the kids go to sleep, which usually means we eat poorly, or a takeaway. And on top of that my mental health is in the toilet so I find it really hard to even want to take care of myself at times. Why spend an hour of my very limited free time going for a run or cooking a healthy meal when I could sit down, order food and play videogames before going to bed to begin another day if bullshit.





  • I’m with you, I don’t think he finishes the main series, but (and this is where I think we differ) I’ve found so much joy and interest in the rest of the world, the stories and even the lore around all of it that i can’t consider it a waste of time.

    I absolutely love YouTube deel-dives about the characters and the world, I’ve spent hours looking over the maps and even more time reading Martin’s work in the form of Fire and Blood, AKOTSK and the larger reference type books that have come out since Winds was released.

    I’m re-reading the main series right now, and whilst I’m fairly confident there’s no pay off I find being in that world, and reading those words to be gift enough to continue with it.


  • My Dad is fantastic, but he’s also 65, working a 6 day week (also warehouse) so I’m very aware that as much as he wants to help, he’s no spring chicken anymore.

    My Mum has like, 7 grandkids and a load of other things aside. We don’t see nearly enough of her, but again…she’s so busy.

    My partner’s Mum and Dad? Basically useless.

    In 6 years we’ve had one night away from the kids, and that was a few weeks ago when we told our mum she was having them (at our house) and we went literally five miles down the road and got a hotel.

    I love them deeply, but I wish they gave as much support to us as they received when I was a 5 year old.