• LurkingLuddite@piefed.social
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    13 days ago

    This says nothing about expecting your partner to pick up on it. It’s implied they have already picked up on it and are now reacting.

    All it is saying is they want a partner to react with empathy, not with entitlement or annoyance.

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      13 days ago

      If the person who is in a bad mood is pouting and moping around and waiting for their partner to ask instead of being honest about how they feel, then they’re being toxic.

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        13 days ago

        Interesting how you took, “being quiet” as moping and expecting a partner to pick up on it.

        That is not said in the tweet. At all.

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          No, it’s the “acting different” part is what I took as moping.

          Which is clearly in the tweet. Verbatim.

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            13 days ago

            You… realize that is quoted, right? That’s what the inattentive asshole partner thinks.

            Maybe you don’t get it because you are the asshole in this scenario?

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              If OP is quiet when they normally aren’t, then they’re acting differently, aren’t they?

              Why did you read the partner as being an inattentive asshole? Maybe they’re autistic and don’t pick up on other people’s body language and moods.

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                It’s the assumption about why they’re quiet that’s the problem.

                That is the entire point of the tweet, yet you’re constantly pretending they’re being quiet for some nefarious or immature reason.

                It’s one thing to not pick up on it. It’s a whole other thing to jump to, “why are you ignoring me?”.

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                  13 days ago

                  The tweet is vague enough to be open to many different interpretations.

                  We don’t know why they’re being quiet. You have no more insight into that than I do.

                  We simply disagree on the interpretation.

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                    13 days ago

                    Their partner also gets to interpret it. The difference is what you assume.

                    That’s the whole fucking point of the tweet! They don’t want someone like you who would assume the worst.