This is a strategy Dennis shares with Charlie who tries it then forgets a step and proceeds to lose his shit and goes nuts trying to escape.
As much as I like escape rooms, I’d definitely reject the idea of having a first date with a man be somewhere where I’m locked in with him for at least x amount of time and I’m being judged on my actions. All I would be thinking about is “get me out of here!”
I know there are people monitoring the situation but I still would never agree to be so dependent on strangers on a first date.
Maybe go to a board game cafe instead and play some skill based games?
Just a heads up, you’re not ever actually locked in for any escape rooms I’ve ever done. You can just walk out at any time, being “locked in” is only part of the narrative, for safety reasons.
That being said, you should always trust your gut and not have to worry about relying on strangers. Local places can also be pretty sketchy sometimes.
I had a boss do this. It was a little awkward because I couldn’t figure out why. There were several groups and we were a couple of minutes in before I figured out that they’d just been going to the same puzzle with different groups.
I still don’t know what that was about, but it made me forget about the room entirely and try to figure out why you’d go through the same one more than once (it wasn’t super interesting, but there were a few neat parts). Another guy just asked for a hint whenever the bosses didn’t respond and that was pretty good.
That’s kinda funny actually, although kinda sleazy.
I wonder if the staff managed to hint to the dates that he’s a regular.
Time for a nice, casual, “Hey, Mike! Good to see you again! So, the usual?”
Haha and then modify the room so that many original puzzles will be red herrings
That’s what I had in mind, just casually treat him like a regular. Maybe make a point of mentioning any new challenges he hasn’t done yet.
idiot
Ableist.
Eade the Nazi<img src=“https://r.nf/pictrs/image/69ac62d8-9b57-47cf-8465-80258cf73adf.png” alt=“:verified:” width=“16” height=“auto”> is probably correct.
Who honestly take their 1st date at a trauma room‽
My first day activities are normal things like libraries, canteens, playgrounds, theatres, parks, etc… Escape room tests like these feel like 2nd base friends kinda materials.Which is apt. They are looking for someone able to do the escape room.
on a first date‽
First date in a library? Nice place to get to know each other is a place where you have to be quiet?
Modern libraries have study booths you can hangout with others and be a tad loud as they have soundproof tech. As a bookworm myself, I want to learn what a partner likes to read, share our discoveries together, our musings, etc…
We can also sign for when we need to be inaudible.
So now your gatekeeping dating preferences? It’s a really weird you’ve chosen to die on here.
what‽ How in blazes is belittling people and vanguarding related‽
You’re the one choosing to view it as belittling, that’s your problem. It’s an original, and perfectly valid dating option, it gives you a fun story to tell people, you get to know how each other think, and you have an objective which removes some social awkwardness if you don’t know what to talk about.
You should also probably not using terabang at the end of every sentence, I know that you’re really proud that you figured out how to type it, but you’re overdoing it.
Did we read the same tweets? ShesLaurenK is “gatekeeping” his dating pool by calling his first dates “idiots” and being unable to handle the pressure of being isolated with someone as digressive victimizer as himself.
Eade at the least did some investigation to check if the tweet had any validity, to find out he’s been reverse his narrative, belittling the dates & the escape room staff.
Also, read my bio once again, since it seems a grammarist has a preference on how I choose to express my shock reading non sequiturs in the 21c.
You think “ShesLaurenK” with the woman in the profile pic is probably a guy rather than a woman named Lauren K? I’m curious as to why tbh.
Does it really matter, when you see others as inferior to you? Surely the next date appreciates being belittled next time they go to an escape room.
I’m just curious how you saw that name (and I know you did, because it was typed by you in the comment I replied to) and thought “Yup, 'She’s Lauren K,” that’s definitely a male, gotta use his correct pronouns." Not exactly the logical conclusion to make there.
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This is really getting ridiculous. Last time i had someone tell me i am ableist after using ADD in a hypothetical scenario because the specific traits and challenges of ADD fit the situation too good to not use the term (and i used it because i seem to fulfill 9/9 medical criteria for ADD and it was simply the first thing i thought of because of my own experience with the symptoms)
You liked being called an idiot?
What do you think the purpose of insults is?
Insults have many uses. I am not sure insulting your first dates is an appropriate course of action, since ShesLaurenK hasn’t gotten his accepting-of-belittlement partner yet.
I call myself idiot sometimes
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Okay but I’m going to draw a line at actual slurs.
Are we allowed to do the hand motion still?
I mean, I guess. trump did it when making fun of a reporter and he is the president again so fuck me.
That’s a personal choice.
The handicapped still haven’t reclaimed that term for you to belittle others with that term, or that of ShesLaurenK.Stop speaking for me.
You don’t know me. You don’t know my family. You are meaningless to me and mine.
We have genetic retardation in our genes (I won’t tell you what it is because it doesn’t matter).
It affects a few people rather extensively, we joke about how those of us who seem “normal” are still retarded.
That’s reality.
You don’t like that? Too fucking bad.
we joke about how those of us who seem “normal” are still retarded.
That’s reality.
You don’t like that? Too fucking bad.So it’s “normal” for you to belittle others with your conditions?
Why do people like you not see a problem with acting like you get to speak for all handicapped people?
Do too even a have a handicap?
Does it make you feel powerful when you claim protector status for people who didn’t ask for your help?
When you’re more concerned about your ability to belittle others than actually enabling others, that you have to use authoritarian rhetorics on someone that has a DNI on their bio.
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Sadly most people are fine with ‘soft’ ableism, and don’t want to make the effort to change and get annoyed when it’s called out.
Some good sources for people wanting to use more accepting language:
https://www.verywellmind.com/types-of-ableist-language-and-what-to-say-instead-5201561
Thanks for the links, I’ll honestly try to adjust my vocabulary, but I have to admit it is difficult. Especially because it ultimately limits the expressiveness of what I want to say. All these words picked up new subtexts and meaning, distinct from their original roots, even if the roots are still there and are still hurtful.
The sad truth is that prescriptivism, even the well-intentioned kind like his, almost never works. There needs to be a massive societal change before it can be normalized.
Without this change to how people think, language will simply adapt and invent new slurs for the disadvantaged, same as how almost all those words picked up their ableist meanings e.g.
- barren ← “bʰosós” (bare)
- lame ← “h₃lemH-” (break/broken)
- stupid ← “stupidus” (to be stunned, surprised, amazed) ← “(s)tew-” (push, hit)
- removed (originally meant “delayed, slowed down”) ←*wre (backwards)- + *terh₂ (pass)
- crazy ← craze (to crush)
- blind ← bʰlendʰ- (blend) [I’m not sure how this one happened TBH]
- crippled ← *krupilaz (tending to crawl) ← *grewb- (crawl)
