• GustavoM@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    If someone does not take the least amount of effort to answer a simple question like that one … then he doesn’t care about you in the slightest.

    “But its a generic question!”

    Two words: common courtesy.

    • CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you’ll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance. It’s a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn’t know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she’ll drop it.

      Or he might just be an idiot.

      Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.

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        1 year ago

        They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance.

        To be fair, that’s usually correct. Women have their pick of men, generally. If a guy answers a band she doesn’t like, most likely she’ll move on.

        So guys lie and tell her everything she wants to hear. And then once they get their foot in the door, they can start telling the truth.

        This guy handled it very badly but I can see why he didn’t want to answer.

        • FlihpFlorp@lemm.ee
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          1 year ago

          Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I don’t think that relation will work