I haven’t really contemplated that much. All of my partners over the years have come from in person interaction. Of course, I’ve never been on social media, so I’m sure my perspective is different.
Those who matter don’t mind, those who mind don’t matter
Dr seuss
It’s never been an issue.
Do most people date by messaging random women on Facebook these days? Am I that out of touch?
Or is the implication that women have “posts pictures of their food online” as a requirement for considering dating someone? If so, who would want to date someone that shallow?
Maybe I’m just old, but I feel like I’m missing something here.
A point that came up in another discussion (elsewhere on Lemmy) is that it can be scarier for women to not find anything about a person that they’re meeting for the first time (ex. From a dating app). So if they had to pick between someone who has a presence and someone who has no information, the presence would help.
This doesn’t apply to people that you meet in person through work/school/activities or long term friendships
I love the irony of stalking people to make sure they’re not creepy.
stalking is only creep if a man does it.
Yes, I also saw a lot of discussion about this on Reddit’s askmen. If you don’t have a social media presence some women think it’s creepy. It seems like the dystopia marches on. My 12 year old son thinks social media is poison and is unlikely to ever use it. I am concerned about how this will affect him in both dating and future employment.
Whats creepy is wanting/expecting to be able to see a detailed history of someone’s social interactions over the past decade or more. To me, that’s in the same category as someone putting a tracking device on the underside of my car and calling me creepy for removing it. How about maybe don’t be an insane stalker? But I’m from the days of “never use your real identity” being the first rule of the internet.
women seach your socials as a ‘background check’.
I date a lot. A lot of social media addicted women find it offputting and suspicous. The ones that don’t think it’s healthy and positive.
