transbyanism [they/them, comrade/them]
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2·6 days agoThank you!
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Most of the time I feel like I have sex like a cis m*n and it makes me feel awful, without making you uncomfortable, what would you say is a “cisn’t” way lol
Do hairstylists actually listen to recommendations without imposing gender biases?
We kiss and cuddle a lot and it’s very enjoyable for the both of us, no issues there, making out not so much, mostly as foreplay sometimes; A few years ago she described what you are saying here, that she felt pressured, but as of late she told me that’s not the case and genuienly enjoys the sex, just that her libido is basically once in a blue moon because hormonal issues and undiagnosed likely chronic pain, from what we can gather at least
She’s not transfem, though she has hormone issues like thyrroid issues, which I have no idea if they impact this, and also has E issues
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Thank you for your reply!
Generally, you feel broken and it feels like a key component of your life has been stolen from you
She has described feeling like this related to her sexuality, and she said that’s why her genitals don’t “work properly”
I discussed an open relationship with my partner and personally, the idea made me want to vomit
Yea we’re both also monogamous, which I see is quite rare here lol
we have had regular sex about every other day for many years after nearly a decade of almost nothing and I love how close we can be now
Wow that’s a lot of progress, sounds wonderful! I just feel bad cause maybe she’s on the ace spectrum and we don’t know and I don’t want to push her on this tbh, I know people can become ace after traumatic events, she isn’t ace though like she enjoys, after a lot of struggle, some degree of sex with me that feels safe, but very rare to the point she has no libido
Open communication and a backup plan for helping her with PTSD after talking about it is a good idea (I liked ice cream or something chewy). Its something that has to be talked about and it really pays dividends to understand how badly someone can take the conversation.
I’ll keep that in mind, thank you!
It’s also a good idea to get involved in sexual PTSD support groups, they can provide advice and tricks to get around specific issues.
Highly doubt we have that, we’re in a very prude-ish country that doesn’t speak publicly of remotely anything sexual lol
She has tried a dildo, to no avail, she said it was only painful; she used to drink slightly, not anymore, and alcohol was one thing that helped her have a libido and not be an anxious mess regarding it, but I told her it’s a bad panacea in this situation, plus now she isn’t allowed medically to drink; we have not tried weed and don’t have experience with it
Yep we’re only monogamous; I wish I could help her more than I already do, but I am clueless… she has an immense list of issues that keep getting worse, and all doctors say she’s perfectly fine or dismiss her on the grounds she’s ‘insane’ (literally heard this one :/). We are 99% sure it’s Long Covid, and of course no medical professional even thinks of it, she has went to a lot of doctors for the past year, but to no avail
We’re not possessive of each other, that’s very much residue of property relations imo; though we’re both willingly monogamous so this wouldn’t really work. We already talked about this plenty of times, just that we’re always in such a fucked environment it’s hard to actually improve in this regard
It’s not for us, we’re rather monogamous; ty!
Yep it’s a big commitment, I feel like it’s part of me now lol; also nope I’m in a very big city but there are no publicly queer people or anything here so it’s all cis women salons sadly, good to hear the new cut is nice!!
12·8 days agoI’ve also tried it, inspired by you, and wow wtf! This is amazingly good, on par if not better than Kagi lmao
Right now it’s about at the middle of my back, length-wise, it’s nice, I’m trying to switch out the products I use to maybe unfuck it, would really suck to cut it… there are no hair cutters here that I’d trust to not fuck up my hair with stupid gender roles lol but atp I’ll be forced to get a haircut considering it’s thinning because I’ve never changed my hairline, but I’m very reluctant cause if I botch this I’m cooked, it’s one of the only gender transgressive things I can do rn
sounds awesome!! I have grown my hair for about 5 years now, only cutting my ends, because i always have my split down the middle of my head, it’s thinning out there, I probably should get a haircut but I’m afraid of professionals lmao
Yea the variety is all amazing and great:3 Vegan cevapi also exist sometimes
5·2 months agoMight be a lot of asymptomatic cases too. It sucks to not have reliable hard data and only act at this point out of fear of getting infected, people that immediately saw “low cases” and are like “wow its finally over!” are way too optimistic about this and I’ve seen a push about this in LC spaces
Sorry to hear that comrade
I have a disabled family member because of covid and yet they refuse to believe it and just said they prefer dying than masking… I dont get people
That’s always nice to see!! I saw like 3 people with an N95 yesterday :3 makes me feel not alone
Here they have never even tested wastewater lol last tests were done in 2022 before mask mandates were lifted and everyone collectively forgot about covid so I sadly dont even have any data to go by other than anecdotal that everyone is very sick
Sure, I’ll dm you! Thank you a lot!