• Apytele@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    God so much about old fashioned courtship is utterly fucked up. I remember reading a critical analysis of “baby it’s cold outside” going through all the things explaining how she can’t say she wants to stay because that would be promiscuous so instead she’s using all these subtle more socially acceptable things and he’s trying to offer her some excuses and it’s a whole thing. Holy shit who has time for all that just so you don’t essentially get fucking excommunicated?

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      3 months ago

      Honestly, we aren’t much different now - the main thing is we’ve tried to make “no” a safe word

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      3 months ago

      That’s a pretty rapey song, especially considering the time period. I like the song, but when we performed it, the gender roles were reversed at least.

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        3 months ago

        It’s not a rapey song. Yes, to modern us it sounds like it was made by Dennis Reynolds, but no it’s not. Before looking too deeply at the lyrics, just ask yourself first, “does it make any sense you write a Christmas duet about raping a woman?” No, it doesn’t. It’s a playful song about making excuses to stay together longer. It’s kind of a crap song anyway, so I’m not even saying this to defend a sign I like; I’d be happy to never hear it again.

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          3 months ago

          You are correct about this song, but keep in mind, one of the most popular wedding songs is “Every Breath You Take”, a song about stalking someone. So, I could def see a duet being made like that.