To paraphrase my comment from elsewhere in this thread:
When someone commits a robbery and they happen to be the race that commits robberies the most often, do you think their race is a key piece of information that should be included when talking about the robbery?
By pointing out the gender (and race) of the other person even though it’s completely irrelevant.
If the original sexist behaviour was typically done by women to other women just as often as by men, the gender of the perpetrator wouldn’t matter,.
Fact of the matter is that this kind of shutting women up and taking down to them is overwhelmingly done by men.
That’s true in the business world, academic world, etc.
Considering this, this is a key piece of information about the situation, not a sexist way to blame men.
To paraphrase my comment from elsewhere in this thread:
When someone commits a robbery and they happen to be the race that commits robberies the most often, do you think their race is a key piece of information that should be included when talking about the robbery?