• This is fine🔥🐶☕🔥@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    Apparently, some women are making comprehensive “sex lists” on their phones, i.e. writing down everyone they’ve ever slept with.

    What?

    Also here’s my list:

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      7 months ago

      As a gay man, most of my list doesn’t have names. Why would I remember their names? Some I didn’t even ask.

        • Cryophilia@lemmy.world
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          7 months ago

          Jokes on you, they lied, they’re actually a woman!

          Now it’s sad and creepy!

          I don’t understand why gay men get a pass for sleeping around but hetero men and especially women get slut shamed.

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            7 months ago

            The kind of people who slut-shame are probably not that progressive towards gay men either

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            7 months ago

            Is it a pass, that comment didnt sound appealing to me regardless of who wrote it.

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              7 months ago

              I’d go the opposite direction and say we should stop being so prudish, personally.

              But at least you’re consistent.

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                7 months ago

                I said it doesnt appeal to me, I didnt say I judge it one way or the other. Being a prude doesnt come into it. For me the gender or orientation of that statement wouldnt change my view of the person making the comment.

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        6 months ago

        I’m a straight man, but I used to work for a shitty hotel. One year they had a gay leather convention. So the hotel was sold out from out of state gay men wearing leather.

        Well, I saw the greatest moment in hookup history. I was checking some guy into his room. Another guy says “Hi, I’m Tom. Are you single, and ready to play?”

        And the other guy said “No. I have many boyfriends, but we’re all ready to play. Come up to room 215, and bring friends. We’ll make it the best room in the whole hotel!”

        Which quite frankly is absurd. Room 215 is generic on it’s BEST day! It’s no room 321, that’s for sure!

        Still though. I watched a guy go from “Hi, my name is…” to “…and thats the orgy we’re hosting!” All in 2 sentences. And it was SMOOTH!!! Even I was like “Damn…I should check out this orgy…oh, right…it’s all guys.”

        When you see how efficent that orgy proposal was, even the Germans are impressed.

    • LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      I have a list like that. It’s important to keep track. because I want to remember things for the sake of remembering them. If I don’t write them down I will forget. also when someone asks you how many people you’ve slept with, you will have the number readily available.

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      7 months ago

      I had a friend at university who was in quite a long relationship who kept a list of people she wanted to sleep with in case they broke up. So when they eventually had a break up, she postponed getting back together until she had cleared the list, which took her about two months. I was not on the list, in case you’re wondering, nor did I want to.

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        7 months ago

        For real? That’s both sad and creepy.

        I hope the other person in the relationship bailed for their own sake.

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          7 months ago

          That’s both sad and creepy.

          How is it either of those things? Let people fuck who they want to fuck as long as it is consentual, who cares?

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            “Hey babe. I made a mistake. I want to get back together.”

            “Sure no problem! Me too! I just need to plow through this list of dudes I’m gonna fuck first.”

            Seems like an awfully shitty thing to do to someone that’s genuinely interested in you.

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              7 months ago

              You cheat on someone: you’re a worthless piece of shit.

              You don’t get back together with someone because you want to have sex with other people first: you’re sad and creepy.

              One can never win when it comes to sex in a puritanical society, unless they very faithfully only have sex with one person.

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              Sounds kinda hot to me. To spice things up, I’d want to hear all about it when we get back together.

              E: Kink shamers, the lot of you! I’d rather be with an experienced lady over someone who’s only been with me.

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                7 months ago

                Exactly, how else will they know they are with the best? In all aspects of a relationship

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              7 months ago

              Right and clearly women sleeping with more men devalues them? Or what is your problem?

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                My point is if I’m interested in someone (man or women) I’m going to have zero interest in waiting for them to fuck a bunch of people first.

                Why would I? I clearly don’t mean anything to you if you need to fuck a bunch of people first.

                You just be young or have never been in a loving relationship before.

                If I told my girlfriend right before I started dating her that before we start I need to go bang 15 women, should have told me to get lost. And rightfully so.

                I can’t help but find this to be a sad reality.

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                  Lol I am not young and have been in several decade-long relationships but sure go ahead assuming.

                  I clearly don’t mean anything to you if you need to fuck a bunch of people first.

                  Thats the real sad mindset I think. You are clearly tying value to number of sexual partners.

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            7 months ago

            Making a list of people to fuck can be a bit creepy for exactly the reason you mentioned: consent—or the absence of it.

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              7 months ago

              What? You need consent to find someone attractive now? Jesus fucking christ, go touch grass

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                7 months ago

                No, you don’t need consent to find someone attractive - that’s a personal thing.

                That said, imagine you’re in a fat neckbeards house that smells slightly of wet socks and you find a piece of paper that lists out twenty women he wants to bang. Creepy, right?

                Flip the script and you’re in an attractive woman’s house that smells of sandalwood and you find a list of guys names that she plans to have sex with. That’s… Still creepy, right?

                In the above listed story, which is probably fake anyway, the woman kept a running tab of people in her life, not celebrities and such, who she would sleep with if they went on a break for any reason. That alone would’ve been a deal breaker for me and I’d have given her the freedom to go do her list. That’s like me saying to my partner “Here’s a list of possibles. Make me mad and I’ll go seal the deal with them before we make up.”

                Now, the woman in the story apparently had to sleep with the whole list, ala My Name Is Earl, for them to get back together. The men, obviously, would sleep with her is the implication. For all we know though, this woman propositioned the men and respected any who turned her down and removed them from the list.

                I actually don’t care about any of this, just needed something to ponder on the toilet.

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                  7 months ago

                  The former example is creepy because the guy is creepy, in both examples the list itself is not creepy. Wanting to have sex is not a bad thing.

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      7 months ago

      Yeah, but not on fucking paper like an idiot!
      You keep that list stored in your mind palace’s secret vault.

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        7 months ago

        The D.R.E.W. system

        be D.irected by D.anny D.eVito

        wR.ite your sex list on the back of your script

        E.ntice your host

        W.in the dick out of his pants.

        That one sucks, let me try another

        D.emand you can stay at his place

        R.evise your previous lovers on a list

        E.licit sexual actions from your host

        W.rite his name on your list

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    7 months ago

    That would’ve been the best opportunity for Danny DeVito to update her list with some pretty funny companions…

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      7 months ago

      Just review the list.

      A good match up we can all enjoy.
      The dangers of drinking.
      Any port in a storm I guess.

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    How many people would you have to sleep with to need a list to keep track? Like I’ve had a lot of partners but I don’t need them writen down

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    7 months ago

    Precluding the instance of STI after having unprotected sex with several partners in a relative applicable time frame, just why?