Not true for me.

I made a joke, and someone got upset. I explained that I didn’t mean it seriously and apologized. Then they told me they were in a bad mood and apologized for their reaction.

I left reddit because of them imposing their cronenbergian UX on me.

ffs, Lemmy’s strength is in it’s decentralised non corpo design, not that we users are a better quality of human. It went from Usenet, to the centralised shitiness of Reddit back to a decentralised system in Lemmy/Piefed more akin to Usenet

but, I’d also argue just by being here you’re a better person.

Lemmy was never going to be a better community than reddit, because it’s still redditors leaving reddit to come here. People were the problem with reddit, people are the problem with Lemmy.

That was always a given.

I’d rather hang with these shitty people over here than those shitty people over there.

the point is lemmy is ours, not some psycho billionaire’s.

Excellent unpopular opinion that I disagree with! Good post for here :3

On Reddit, I was CONSTANTLY annoyed in every thread.

Award edits: annoying.

Talking about awards and upvotes: annoying.

Spamming subreddits as hashtags: annoying. Rehashing the same phrase/joke over and over again: annoying.

Fake stories in all top subreddits in /all/ used as creative writing before LLMs made even being CREATIVE obsolete yet the site was clogged with bullshit and hundreds (if not thousands) of people responding as if the stories are real: annoying.

(More recently, as of when I left Reddit when the API change was made) Majority of people bots or astroturfers/shills/etc: annoying.

I constantly was shitting in comments and people on Reddit because so many comments were just… so… horribly… stupid! Asinine! Coming from a history of communities of folks that, while being overtly overwhelmingly dumb/offensive, were at least original or creative (IRC/Usenet/LUE/SA/b/specific forums) in their commenting and posts, near the end of Reddit’s life I felt like I had to dig through more oceans of shit to find a tiny gold nugget than I did when I was heavy into /b/ in the early-to-mid 2000s.

I find that Lemmy threads have an expectantly smaller quantity of idiots, rehashed ‘clever’ one-liners in every thread, ‘creative’ writing that isn’t creative in the slightest, and overall garbage commenters. Better shitposters, more furries, better grammar, and more organic stuff overall.

That’s my opinion, anyway. Your post has a lot of downvotes for a “popular” “unpopular opinion” post here which tells me you’ve posted a good one hahaha. I do agree with some of what you’ve said—I’d like some places I can post and read some more crunchy-ass shit. Not stuff like being racist “as a joke”, but with the way the fediverse is, I’d like some NSFL stuff and places where people can be free to be more crude or whatnot. Lemmy is very “safe”, which is healthy for a lot of folks. Overall though, I’ll take “safe” over “enragingly annoying everywhere” hahaha

The userbase is largely overlapping as most Lemmy users are current or former Reddit users. The difference is largely in the communities and moderation, not users…

Reddit has a perverse incentive to keep the user base frothing for engagement

There is no such incentive on Lemmy. We are toxic because we choose to be. All natural, free range, grassroots haters

Well I don’t think we’re on here to appease you so shrug.

The internet is and always has been toxic. At least on lemmy, there’s some people who remember what trolling is and recognize it. On reddit and the other platforms, the traditional internetisms are non-existent. People seem to be born yesterday. They have no concept of trolling or flamebait and the like. They take everything at face value and respond to bait with naivety.

So far I’m having a lovely experience

It’s much calmer

I don’t use Lemmy much anymore nowadays because of this. While it’s important an alternative to Reddit exists, so I try to support it, it ironically feels more like a hivemind than Reddit does (ironic because you’d expect the opposite for federated services). I think it’s because switching to Lemmy from Reddit requires either idealism or a Reddit ban, both of which disproportionately attract people who feel good when they verbally attack internet strangers for disagreeing with them on 1% of the implicitly agreed upon joint viewpoints. It also strangely reminds me of the feeling I got being part of an old gaming community that was slowly dying out, where eventually only the unpleasant ones who defined their identity based on it were left.

I’m always happy to see there are also people here who dislike this attitude, though, or even to see neutral posts. There is still hope!

Reading all the comments here venting about bad expereince and here I am just having a blast on Lemmy with a the nice interactions! :D

Yeah, someone calls me a retard, I call them a retard, and then mod turns out to be a triggered Karen foaming over made up problem related to people with mental disabilities.